Once again, you're blaming yourself for what he did. You had an affair, (with a man who saw you as nothing more than a convenient diversion) he had a sex addiction, talked openly about having sex with his then-preteen daughter, had a secret bank account to fund his multiple lifestyles of the perverted and clueless and ultimately admitted he was gay. And yet, in court, he turns into Jack McCoy and blames you for allowing your two nearly-adult children and junior high/middle school kid to take responsibility for getting their own lunches and walking to school. Really. This from a man who would rather use his hand while watching porn than actually have sex with you or any other female. Lovely.